What do you see when you look at a girl?

I wanna know, I wanna know
Do you have the balls to ask?
What do you see when you look at a girl?
Is she a game you wanna win?
If no-one was looking what would you do to get in?
Do you have friends who would be proud if you went in for the kill?
Do you have friends who would do it even against her will?

What if they did that to your sister?
What if they did that to your mother?

Why are we so slow?

I bet you think you're such a hottie,
but a body afraid is not a sexual body
What do you see when you look at a girl?
Is she a game you wanna win?
If no-one was looking what would you do to get in?
Everybody's been laughed at and
everybody's been left out but
That's no excuse to turn it around,
no boy has the right to hold a girl down

What if they did that to your sister?
What if they did that to your mother?

On your star wars sheets when you set the scene
Was she seducing you, or did she want to scream?

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I'm talking to you, you know who you are, going too far.
You'll feel good for ten seconds, she'll be screwed up for life.

Blue balls and all of that bullshit

Nada Surf - Mother's Day

The Proximity Effect (Elektra, 1998)

Depuis que j'ai glissé cet album dans mon lecteur mp3, je n'arrête pas d'y revenir. "The proximity Effect" reste pour moi le meilleur album de Nada Surf, notamment grâce à une tripotée de morceaux mémorables : Hyperspace, Troublemaker, 80 windows, the voices.

Mother's Day fait parti de ceux dont les paroles interpellent.

A qui veut bien s'atteler à la tâche de changer la société, le regard qu'elle porte sur les femmes, et la place de celles-ci, il est sans doute une évidence de répéter le rôle de l'éducation.

Il est en revanche peut-être moins immédiat d'insister sur l'éducation des garçons, et  sur la sensibilisation précoce à la notion de "consentement".